The holidays are tough.
Firstly, remember that you’re not alone.
We’re all in this together. There are so many people out there ready to support you. There are people who care. I know, because I’m one of them. The holidays can be a lonely time for lots of people, even if you’re surrounded by others. But know that you may feel lonely, but you are not alone (there’s a difference I promise). You have the world– we are all living in this planet together. Being human. Struggling in our own ways. You are not alone.
Remember that you are loved.
Firstly, by the world. This earth needs you. It can’t spin the same without you on it. There are also so many people out there who love you, whether they express it in ways you can understand or not. Again, I know because I’m one of them. You impact everyone you come across. There are dozens and dozens and dozens of people who care about and love you. Pinky swear.
Remember that this is temporary.
The holidays will pass. Just like every other day, each day is only 24 hours and then you can start new again. It can feel like forever, I know, but it’s not. You can survive this.
Remember that whatever happens is okay.
Be gentle on yourself. This is one crazy time of year that brings with it a tornado of emotions. It’s okay if you do the thing you’re trying not to do anymore– restrict, binge, purge, self harm, drink, whatever it is. It happens. And that’s okay. Try not to beat yourself up about it. You’re human. But just because it happened doesn’t mean it has to keep happening– every day is a new day and you can always start again.
Remember that you are a badass.
You have fought to become the person you are today. And whether you are struggling, or in recovery (or both, because let’s be real, recovery is a struggle bus sometimes), you are a badass. Because you are fighting hard. Really hard. And you’re strong, and you’re gonna win. I promise.
Remember that you deserve all the good things.
No matter what happens– what someone says, what slips may or may not happen– you’re not a bad person. You’re an amazing person. And mental illness isn’t a character flaw. It doesn’t take away from the wonderful, magical, badass person you are. You deserve life, and health, and happiness. I swear it.
We’ll get through this together.